Divorce not the answer, living smart is

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• k33j88 posted at 5:44 am on Sat, Sep 24, 2011.

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  Children are too often the brunt of pain and suffering during and after a divorce. It is so very important to be civil towards each other when children are involved. Liberal judges in family court cases often see to it that one or the other parents have been disconnected in the childs life. Case in point----supervised visitation. These bench-ordered judgements are often granted on the whims of those seeking some sort of vindication, using the children as pawns. Society pays the ultimate price for lack of parents involment in the early development of a childs life. The mother cannot fulfill the role of both father and mother-----irregardless of what one may believe. Liberal bench activitists are destroying the moral fabric of society. If you don't believe me, take a good look at our youth of today, especially the ones raised by a liberal single parent.

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• dustbowl11 posted at 7:16 am on Sat, Sep 24, 2011.

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  Liberal Arizona judges? You mean like in Mesa?

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• sockratties posted at 7:25 am on Sat, Sep 24, 2011.

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  It’s interesting that Ms. “Can’t we all just get along” never mentioned marriage vows; promises made and promises broken. There should be some recognition that the couple gave their word and then backed out. They’re reneging on a contract and losing their best friend.

  A marriage is not a 50%/50% proposition... It’s 100%/100% with both working full time at keeping it together. But where is this taught? At home ideally, but with over 1/3 of marriages failing within the first 5 years, examples are rarely positive. As the author said, stress is a big part and money issues exacerbate the problem.

  There should be some kind of course people must pass before they take what is supposed to be a lifelong adventure. It should include family finances, partnership, responsibility, child rearing and the many other things that hold marriages together or tear them apart. Even if they don’t learn how to be a life partner with another human being it may keep them from making a mistake in the first place. Maybe they’ll learn that getting married isn’t just playing house until they tire of it.

  One commenter tried to put a liberal spin on the problem but that’s only someone trying to work their own political agenda into what appears to be a cultural problem. Marriage is in trouble across all spectrums; financial, political and social.. New immigrants to the U.S. such as families from Japan (50’s), Cuba (60’s) Viet Nam (70’s), Mexico, and the Middle East have strong family ties even though they are often financially challenged. This tradition is shown to erode as each generation becomes more affluent and more “Americanized.”

  Demographics also show that population mobility, which relates to urbanization and diversity of the work force tends to erode family structure and influence. This mobility and urbanization may be greater in some states than others because of employment characteristics.

  Popular media uses single parents and broken homes as comedy staples, endorsing them as a normal way of handling life. Tenuous affairs of movie stars who marry and divorce as if they’re trying a new restaurant seem glamorous although their children are usually shuffled out of camera view. Perhaps marriage is going the way of small appliances, beverage containers and fast-food utensils. When you’re done with them, just throw them away and find another.

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• Accuracy posted at 10:31 am on Sat, Sep 24, 2011.

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  Linda Turley-Hansen,

  Good autobiography. Showing that while only one percent of married women are in poverty, 24 percent of divorced women are. In a time when many Americans accepted that a 50 percent divorce rate was inevitable, children of divorce feel the pain of the breakup well into their adult life.

  Today, the latest U.S. census shows that more Americans who get married are now staying married. Three out of four people who got married after 1990 are still married at least 10 years later. That is up 3 percent from the 1980s when divorce hit a record high.

  Most divorces have always occurred within 10 years of marriage because most people who are unhappily married figure that out quickly. So, more couples are choosing to live together before they get married and that plays a factor in lowering the divorce rate.

  Research shows that if those in a failing marriage would get some mentoring (by a trusted counselor or guide), and simply wait it out for five years, they are likely see a big turnaround. And that 86 percent of couples who decide to stall a divorce for five years end up with happier, enduring marriages after those five years.
  

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• RationalHuman posted at 11:59 am on Tue, Sep 27, 2011.

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  " The mother cannot fulfill the role of both father and mother-----irregardless of what one may believe."
  Aww, is k33j88 taking their bigotted opinion and presenting it as fact AGAIN?
  *SIGH*

  "take a good look at our youth of today, especially the ones raised by a liberal single parent. "
  I would fall into that category - you should probably look in the mirror for your next target...something about the beam in your eye before the splinter in mine...

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