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Michelle "Mikey" Arana

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Posted: Wednesday, November 9, 2011 2:00 pm | Updated: 1:40 pm, Wed Oct 10, 2012.

Dear Mikey,

I have been working at a job for about eight months now and I was unemployed before this job for about a year-and-a-half. I am glad that I have found work again but I have a few issues with my current job.

At about the third month I started noticing things about the job that I did not like. It was more than the typical working eight hours a day sort of complaint, but more along the lines of the people there are doing things that go against my moral standards. I don't like how they treat other people and I don't like how they treat me.

But, on the other hand, I know that I cannot quit unless I find a new job because of how the economy is. I do not enjoy the job anymore, and how they treat me and other people there is really starting to bother me now. Do I quit or wait until I find something else?

Please help!

-J.J.S.

Dear J.J.S.,

I can understand your frustration because in one sense you are trying to stick to your moral standards, but at the same time the job seems to be something that you need financially right now (or else you probably would have already left). However, you should never, ever work somewhere that goes against your own moral standards. No job should ever change you as a person, or even your beliefs, unless it is a positive change. If this job is causing this much inner turmoil then it does not sound like the right job for you. Although the decision in the end is truly yours, you are the one that has to live with your own decisions at the end of the day.

I can offer you a few suggestions. You can try to wait until you find another job by applying and networking, and if you get a new job then you can put in your two weeks notice. This way you are ending on a good note with them, can still put them down as references in the future, and you are not losing any income.

Another suggestion is communicating with them. Do you think that if you talked to them about the situation that it would make the situation better or worse? Be careful with this one because you don't want to make it worse to where they treat you worse than they did before, and you also don't want to get terminated at the same time for bringing this up.

All in all, if this job and the people that work there are going against everything you stand for then I would suggest getting out of there. Perhaps you can get a couple part-time jobs, or night jobs at restaurants, or even clean houses or house sit in the meantime in order to make ends meet until you can find a more stable form of employment again. At least that can buy you some time just in case you can't take it anymore and decide you just have to get out of there ASAP for your own mental sanity.

Always remember that no job is ever worth going against your own personal morals or should make you feel uncomfortable by doing something that is asked of you. A work environment should be a respectful environment, and if your employer is not willing to fix the problems or issues you have voiced to them then it may be time to just move on. Life is too short to be working somewhere that makes you miserable. No amount of money will ever be worth sacrificing your own personal moral standards, as well as risking your health from all of the stress that it may be causing.

Whatever you decide, make sure you have your friends and family there for you to give you some positive support. Best bet is to go with your instinct and stay true to yourself.

Good luck with your decision and know that things will get better soon.

• Ahwatukee Foothills resident Michelle "Mikey" Arana is a 2003 graduate of Mountain Pointe High School. She offers free peer advice, however, Mikey is not licensed or trained, just a fellow friend to the community. All inquiries made to Mikey will remain anonymous unless legal issues occur. She can be reached at www.myaskmikey.com or myaskmikey@yahoo.com.

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