We stand at the precipice of a revolution so major that for centuries history will focus on it and social scientists will give it the attention it should be receiving today.
Traditional marriage, and the families it’s produced over the ages, is collapsing and few seem to understand the threat this transformation holds. Fatefully, the heterosexual community is a major player in its own demise. Not only are its families floundering, they are providing clout to the “tipping point,” to the fewer than 3 percent of our population who can’t organically/naturally participate in procreation.
The Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transsexual (LGBT) community’s cause is spoken of as a civil rights issue. It is not. It cannot be. Different can’t be made the same. However, love, respect and honor for the LGBT are natural human rights; far beyond civil. All people qualify and we need to do better, but never take down a protective institution in the guise we’re fixing problems, instead of loving enough.
Some heterosexuals are embedded in this effort because their children are among the LGBTs. Case in point: a recent column by Lisa Graham Keegan in the East Valley Tribune (May 11), regarding her desire for her lesbian daughter to marry in Arizona. I wondered how this wonderful mother of five, who diligently served as state superintendent of public instruction (1995-2001) can ignore the “bigger picture?” She knows the value of heterosexual marriage for children. Surely she’s seen the statistics. Instead, she pleads for Arizona to change its marriage laws in support of “the one,” in an effort to love enough.
I suppose it’s fair that a mother, who I wish all the best, fights for her child’s dreams. But still, she can’t be oblivious to the fact that playing with traditional marriage weakens the future of her own heterosexual posterity.
Is she really willing to participate in a social experiment that carries the omen of the “O-Ring,” which brought down the Space Shuttle Challenger in 1986? We’re messing with social engineering, without judicious research. The long range risk is enormous.
Why keep heterosexual language, titles and contracts exclusive? Because there’s power in words and tradition. Children learn from those patterns. That’s why the LGBT groups want to claim them instead of other fair, legal options available to loving partners.
How bad can this path be? Already, some groups seek the rights for either mate to claim the label of dad or mom regardless of sex. Others would eliminate all traditional titles. Some analysts say others aim to see marriage eliminated, overall (the federalist.com-bait-and-switch).
As for designer babies, we know a fetus is affected by events outside the womb including emotions experienced by mothers and surrogates. What else should we know? And, where are the civil rights of every child in regards to claiming a mom and dad on their family tree?
Substitute families are needed and are good, however, conscientious birth parents are always better. Deliberately choosing good, rather than better, is a fool’s way. A society that doesn’t strive for the ideal, is bound to die.
One would hope citizens would rise up in the greatest of all humanitarian efforts to support nature’s nest. With all the legal/financial considerations for special interest groups, traditional marriage should be at the top. Why is it not?
As for mothers. We can hope their concerns for their “one” would never put them in position to sacrifice the “whole,” when wisdom and selflessness is one of the greatest gifts we can give a child.
• East Valley resident Linda Turley-Hansen is a syndicated columnist and former veteran Phoenix TV anchor. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.